It’s Okay To Be Emotional

We tend to hide our emotions from others in order to protect ourselves. But there’s nothing wrong with being emotional. It’s completely healthy to express your emotions, it’s just all about control. If you control your emotions, it will help in approaching difficult situations and allow you to take a logical action.

Why Is It Okay To Be Emtional?

Emotions are there for a reason. They warn us of danger and let us know what situations and people are good for us, as well as those that aren’t. Through doing so, we are able to live better lives and become better people. Emotions are a good thing, therefore it’s okay to express them. The only time they are bad is when they become toxic.

Toxic emotions arise when we make poor decisions that effect us and others. Through this negative outcomes emerge and we can go into a spiral of bad choices.

How Do We Control Our Emotions?

Step back, and think if the decision you’re making in a difficult situation is rational. View the scenario from multiple viewpoints and determine what course of action is best. If the situation doesn’t work out, reflect on it and learn how to handle it next time, but don’t dwell on it. Dwelling on bad memories only leads to negativity.

Meditation may also help, it’s certainly not for everyone, though it’s worth giving it a go. Through meditation you can learn to have more control over your mind and how to focus in different situations rather than letting your emotions burst.

Though it may be hard, it takes a lot of mental power to put these into practice and at the end of the day, it’s worth it. Hopefully you all enjoyed this post and got something out of it, thanks for reading!

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Living in the Present

Living in the present opens you up to more positivity in your daily life. Often when bad old memories arise, it can bring anxiety and stress, and this goes for the future as well. At times when we think of our future we are afraid because we don’t know what awaits us, giving rise to stress.

Why Is It Important?

If your brain thinks about the past or future too often, it can allow negative or toxic thoughts to enter your headspace. If it continues it can become a state of mind. It will give rise to anxiety and it will reflect on your outlook on life.

Keeping your mind in the present allows you appreciate daily life more and brings about positivity. Of course, you can think where your future is heading, but don’t let the negative thoughts in. You don’t know what will happen and stressing over it won’t help.

How Do We Live In The Moment?

Find an activity that will allow you to take your mind back to the present. Walking with a friend often helps, or cooking with someone. Distract yourself, that’s the best way to appreciate what you currently have.

However if these thoughts are consistent and constantly causing stress and anxiety, by all means seek help to talk out the events bothering you. Talking things out definitely helps you to understand why the situation bothers you and let’s you move on.

Hope this post was thought provoking, thanks for reading! And please be safe in these strange times.

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Fitness Journal – 25th of March

It’s been a while since I did a fitness journal. I really want to start them up again because I gained a lot of motivation from them and I hope others can benefit from them in some way.

I’ve been in a bit of a rut lately. While I haven’t gained weight, I had to stop exercising for a while because I had the flu. It’s hard to get out of that doing nothing mentality. However, now that my country is beginning to go into self isolation because of the virus, I’ve decided it’s time to get back to it.

My routine is going to be Chloe Ting’s workout and going for a daily walk. Since gyms are closed I cannot go so I need to make do with home exercise. I have previously done Chloe’s workouts before and they are fantastic, especially the abs one. I would definitely recommend them. They are quite intense and they hit the spot.

In terms of dieting, I cannot be choosey and continue keto because people keep panic buying everything they can get their hands on. It’s time to eat carbs again. On a side note, this panic buying is honestly ridiculous. There was no protein, eggs or bread at one point and it was incredibly frustrating to go to multiple supermarkets to find something. But yes, time to basically eat what I have. I have been counting calories to ensure I don’t go too much over the daily limit. In saying that if I’m hungry, I am going to eat.

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Working From Home

Over the past few weeks, more people have had to go into self isolation to avoid COVID-19. Australia is starting to take the same precautions and this might be a possibility in the near future. So far, we have closed all non-essential services in an attempt to slow the virus, but even so there a fewer and fewer people on the streets.

With more people starting to work from home, I wanted to share some tips to ensure productivity. I have been working/studying from home for most of my uni life and I understand how difficult it can be to focus.

Tips for Working at Home

  • Get ready for the day as you would normally – Get dressed and maybe put some makeup on. Do whatever it takes to get you into that working mindset.
  • Start the day off with something you enjoy – Going straight into working can deter you from being productive because you went into a boring activity immediately at the beginning of your day.
  • Make rules for phone checking – for example; you have to leave your workspace to check your phone. Creating this rule means you won’t scroll through your phone and distract yourself. You may even be too lazy to get up, so you continue to work.
  • Listen to soundtracks or music that won’t distract your brain – I know if I listen to audio with words then my brain will focus on that rather than the work.
  • Have lots of natural lighting – natural lighting is good so your eyes don’t strain.
  • Make your environment cozy – light a candle, make some tea, get a warm blanket or anything that makes you feel cozy and comfortable.

Those were some tips for working at home. I hope you all got something valuable from them.

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Fan Art – Animal Crossing

Drawing or doodling is quite a therapeutic activity that allows the creative juices to flow. When stressed, anxious or depressed, it can calm you and be an emotional outlet. In this post I wanted to share some fan art I created that is based on the game Animal Crossing.

Animal Crossing is a game that is simplistic and beautiful. Basically, you become mayor of a town with zero mayoring experience, then get forced into debt and have to pay it off by catching fish, bugs and harvesting fruit. It’s a game that truely allows you to enjoy the simple things in life and with New Horizons coming out this Friday, everyone is ecstatic.

I decided to draw some digital art because Animal Crossing is was a game that I could get lost in and escape reality. With the new game coming out, it was a way for me to say goodbye to the old game and welcome the new. While I am still attempting to find my digital art style, this allowed me to let my creativity flow and I am excited to share it.

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The Outer Worlds And Asexuality

Lately, I have noticed that representation of different cultures, orientations, etc have become more prominent in the media. In my opinion there is still much stereotyping going on, however; it’s good to see that wider representation is happening. This brings me to the topic of this post. Recently, I have been playing the video game, The Outer Worlds and I was taken aback by the asexual character that was presented. For those who don’t know, asexuality is an orientation in which an individual lacks sexual attraction to anyone. That’s the definition in its purest form and by no means excludes people who don’t have sexual attraction, yet still have romantic attraction or sleep with their partners. I have been asexual for as long as I can remember, all those natural instincts never clicked. The Outer Worlds portrayed my situation perfectly. First I want to explain a bit about what the game is about and then delve into the character which changed the game for me.

The Outer Worlds is a role playing game set in a colony in another star system. This colony is poorly run by a cooperation and you are tasked with saving the colony before its demise. Not only does this game have an asexual character, it also explores social hierarchy and the power of cooperations. The social commentary present in this game is incredibly in your face and it really allows you to reflect, drawing comparisons. In saying this, I shouldn’t have been surprised when I discovered the level of depth they gave Parvati (the asexual character). The writers never failed to show the anxiety that had arisen due to her sexuality.

During the game, Parvati meets someone she idolises and they start hitting it off. When I went to interact with her, I could feel her anxiety. She confided in me about how she has was never into ‘physical stuff’ and worried that her romantic interest wouldn’t accept her. And to personalise your gameplay and story even more, the writers added an option where you can admit that you weren’t into physical stuff either. Parvati looked completely surprised. For me, it captures the anxiety with meeting potential romantic partners and even the shock of finding someone like you to a tea. When you meet someone you like, anxiety takes hold, some might argue even more so if you’re asexual. Countless times I have worried, ‘what if they only want one thing?’ and it stop you from pursuing relationships. It’s also amazing that they didn’t make her an aromantic (someone who doesn’t experience romantic attraction) asexual. I’ve found when people find out someone is asexual there’s a lot of ‘so you don’t want to date anyone’, so it’s good to get a wide variety of asexual representation out there. Every asexual is different.

On quick side note, I also like how she wasn’t labelled as asexual within the game, which I know might sound a little strange. For me, it’s normal, it doesn’t need a label. Yes, a label can help us understand what we experiencing, though I’ve always let it create anxiety about how different I am. Labels help some and don’t help others, it’s a matter of preference.

Thanks for reading everyone! Let me know what you think about representation in the media today. Is it getting better? or is it full of stereotyping?

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