Journaling isn’t for everyone. It can be immensely beneficial for some and for others it may not be. For me I journal through my creativity. I create blog posts to express the emotions I keep hidden within, all while hoping I can bring advice or happiness to someone else’s day. However, writing down these emotions, whether happy or upsetting can help people understand themselves better. I also keep a physical journal, and while I don’t write in it everyday, it’s there when needed. Physical journaling helps us reflect, but it also give us something to do. Write absolutely anything. Talk crap about your favourite show or go into detail and examine every bit of its themes. You see those themes because it’s how your mind interprets it. It’s a creative outlet that allows you to explore your brain.
I wanted to share some prompts to help you journal and reflect on your emotions, as well as enable you to be grateful. Sometimes we don’t appreciate what we have.
How do you deal with change? Is it welcomed? Give an example.
What is a time in your life that you put your heart into something and no one appreciated it? How did it feel? And what were your next steps?
What little things bring you joy and make you calm?
What can you implement in your daily life to give yourself tiny bits of joy?
Everyone has a story. A moment in life that changed who they were, for better or for worse. What is that moment for you? And what did you learn from this?
Did you fulfil your previous goals in life? If not, are you okay with not achieving this goal? If yes, was that goal what you expected?
What show are you watching right now? What makes it appeal to you? Are there any characters you can resonate with?
Describe the book you’re reading. What characters can you resonate with? What themes are present?
What stands out to you when you take a walk on your normal route? Why?
If you find romance, how do you want your relationship to be? How can your partner show you respect?
What is your definition of a good friendship? How do you ensure you’re a good friend?
What’s a moment in your life that your pets have been there for you?
Love video games? List your favourite and the best character in them.
If you were to write a book or a screenplay, what would you want it to be about?
Some of these may leave you thinking ‘why would I want to write about that?’. Write about anything you want to. Journaling isn’t always supposed to be about your day. Google prompts or choose some of these, it allows you to reflect on life and also shows you where you were at a certain point in your life. I don’t know about you but I find it incredibly satisfying to look back and see who I was, as well as how far I’ve come.
Thank you all for reading! I hope you enjoyed this post.
Living in the present opens you up to more positivity in your daily life. Often when bad old memories arise, it can bring anxiety and stress, and this goes for the future as well. At times when we think of our future we are afraid because we don’t know what awaits us, giving rise to stress.
Why Is It Important?
If your brain thinks about the past or future too often, it can allow negative or toxic thoughts to enter your headspace. If it continues it can become a state of mind. It will give rise to anxiety and it will reflect on your outlook on life.
Keeping your mind in the present allows you appreciate daily life more and brings about positivity. Of course, you can think where your future is heading, but don’t let the negative thoughts in. You don’t know what will happen and stressing over it won’t help.
How Do We Live In The Moment?
Find an activity that will allow you to take your mind back to the present. Walking with a friend often helps, or cooking with someone. Distract yourself, that’s the best way to appreciate what you currently have.
However if these thoughts are consistent and constantly causing stress and anxiety, by all means seek help to talk out the events bothering you. Talking things out definitely helps you to understand why the situation bothers you and let’s you move on.
Hope this post was thought provoking, thanks for reading! And please be safe in these strange times.
Lately, I have noticed that representation of different cultures, orientations, etc have become more prominent in the media. In my opinion there is still much stereotyping going on, however; it’s good to see that wider representation is happening. This brings me to the topic of this post. Recently, I have been playing the video game, The Outer Worlds and I was taken aback by the asexual character that was presented. For those who don’t know, asexuality is an orientation in which an individual lacks sexual attraction to anyone. That’s the definition in its purest form and by no means excludes people who don’t have sexual attraction, yet still have romantic attraction or sleep with their partners. I have been asexual for as long as I can remember, all those natural instincts never clicked. The Outer Worlds portrayed my situation perfectly. First I want to explain a bit about what the game is about and then delve into the character which changed the game for me.
The Outer Worlds is a role playing game set in a colony in another star system. This colony is poorly run by a cooperation and you are tasked with saving the colony before its demise. Not only does this game have an asexual character, it also explores social hierarchy and the power of cooperations. The social commentary present in this game is incredibly in your face and it really allows you to reflect, drawing comparisons. In saying this, I shouldn’t have been surprised when I discovered the level of depth they gave Parvati (the asexual character). The writers never failed to show the anxiety that had arisen due to her sexuality.
During the game, Parvati meets someone she idolises and they start hitting it off. When I went to interact with her, I could feel her anxiety. She confided in me about how she has was never into ‘physical stuff’ and worried that her romantic interest wouldn’t accept her. And to personalise your gameplay and story even more, the writers added an option where you can admit that you weren’t into physical stuff either. Parvati looked completely surprised. For me, it captures the anxiety with meeting potential romantic partners and even the shock of finding someone like you to a tea. When you meet someone you like, anxiety takes hold, some might argue even more so if you’re asexual. Countless times I have worried, ‘what if they only want one thing?’ and it stop you from pursuing relationships. It’s also amazing that they didn’t make her an aromantic (someone who doesn’t experience romantic attraction) asexual. I’ve found when people find out someone is asexual there’s a lot of ‘so you don’t want to date anyone’, so it’s good to get a wide variety of asexual representation out there. Every asexual is different.
On quick side note, I also like how she wasn’t labelled as asexual within the game, which I know might sound a little strange. For me, it’s normal, it doesn’t need a label. Yes, a label can help us understand what we experiencing, though I’ve always let it create anxiety about how different I am. Labels help some and don’t help others, it’s a matter of preference.
Thanks for reading everyone! Let me know what you think about representation in the media today. Is it getting better? or is it full of stereotyping?
Life can be quite stressful at times, and often we bottle up our feelings. As we keep in our feelings more and more, it becomes even more unhealthy and can give rise to outbursts of emotion. A way to combat this is through having a creative outlet.
What is a Creative Outlet?
A creative outlet is basically something creative that you do to portray your emotions. It can range from drawing to writing a blog. It also doesn’t have to be singled down to one hobby. I personally enjoy writing stories, blogs and poetry, as well as digital art. It just has to be something that allows you to express yourself.
Why Is It Important?
Having a means to express your creativity is extremely beneficial for your mental health. It enables you to focus all your creativity and emotions on a specific task. The importance of aiming your emotions at one activity allows one to have an effective outlet, as opposed to keeping them in and doing nothing with them. If we don’t allow them to flow, our emotions tend to come out eventually in an unhealthy way. Drawing, writing or other hobbies allow us to reflect and explore the reasons we are feeling a certain way without discussing our issues with others. Opening up to friends isn’t a bad thing to do, however; sometimes we really need to listen to ourselves.
Taking the time to think and analyse your emotions allows one to understand themselves to a higher degree. It’s essential to reflect without the influence of others. Often we go to other people to understand our own emotions and give us advice. If we constantly let opinions and judgements bombard us, we start to lose sight of ourselves, therefore; it is up to us to obtain that understanding of our own emotions.
Creative Outlet Ideas
Journaling – this helps us think clearer, although it is quite hard to do because directly writing our emotions can be daunting.
Writing poetry or short stories – I see this as a way to mask ones emotions. Say you’re experiencing extreme heart ache because of a situation, you have the power to put creativity into that emotion and express it in fictional way. This is my personal preference over journaling.
Drawing – sometimes scribbling helps, sometimes delving deep into a picture does. As long as you get those emotions out.
Creating YouTube videos – some people like to use their experiences to create media. I haven’t personally done this, however it’s an outlet.
Making a game – games are just writing and drawing combined which seems amazing. Of course, there is coding and the hard computer aspects, none the less it is a great way to channel emotions and creativity.
Cooking or baking – make up your own recipes, decorate a cake, it helps to just do something fun and creative.
Thanks for reading everyone! I only this year learned how to channel my emotions into creativity and its working thus far.
Hi Everyone! In this post I am going to discuss self-care and why it’s a necessary for one’s mental well-being. At times when I have felt quite down and lacked confidence, I found that had to do a lot with the fact that I had stopped making time for myself.
What is Self-care?
Self-care is an activity that we do to take care of our mental or emotional state. It can range from partaking in your skin care routine to taking a long bath, or even playing video games. Basically something you do to make yourself feel better.
Why is it Necessary?
Often our day to day lives are filled with stress and anxiety because of work or other factors. Practising self-care helps to combat the toll that our daily lives takes on our mental health. Some benefits that self-care has shown, include; greater capacity to manage stress, increased resilience and reduced mental health problem symptoms.
As someone who was incredibly burnt out last year, I always delayed doing activities to take care of myself. I would often find myself saying, ‘I’ll do it when my semester is finished’. At the end of the day, I got even more burnt out and my performance dropped. Self-care should be implemented on a daily basis as we all need a break.
Some Self-Care Ideas:
Light some candles, even the smallest tasks can be therapeutic. Create a calm atmosphere to enjoy especially if the environment you live in is quite stressful.
Put a face mask on. I always joke that face masks wash away all my insecurities and they do in a therapeutic sense. If I feel like I am having a bad skin day, I put on a mask and my skin feels better.
Eat some chocolate. Don’t eat your feelings away, just indulge in some comfort food sometimes, its like a reward for your work.
Play some video games or read a book. I do this for escapism and well there’s nothing wrong with wanting to escape at times. Take yourself to another world and have an adventure.
There’s so much you can do to feel good and, more often than not, its the simple things that help the most. I challenge you all to try an implement some self care at least once a day. Just do something that genuinely feels good because it’s incredibly easy to absent mindedly watch television while scrolling on your phone.
It’s 3am and I have realised I have been in rut for the past two weeks. All I do lately is play video games and I don’t think that’s healthy. Now at 3am, for some reason I have decided it would be the best time to organise everything so I can be as mentally prepared for productiveness tomorrow. So, how am I going to organise everything? How am I going to get into a productive mindset?
Writing Down A To Do List For Tomorrow
I created a bullet journal and it is being used very poorly at the moment. I am basically going to plan out all my tasks the day before and leave the bullet journal open in plain view so I do not ignore it. I find if things are directly in front of me I will just ignore them, therefore; it is going on my desk where I first sit in the morning.
Developing A Morning Routine
My morning routines are non-existent and I wake up at like 1pm these days, since I haven’t started uni again. So, my morning routine or should I say wake up routine is poor. Basically I am going to put the tasks I want to get out of the way in the morning such as, workouts and reading. From there I will march over to my desk and not play videogames.
‘How are you going to maintain this morning routine?’ I hear the voice inside my head asking me. Well, I tried downloading the app Fabulous but it wanted me to pay and I like motivational messages as much as the next person but I’m not paying $64 a year. I could use my bullet journal, though I need something to bombard me with notifications so I actually do my morning routine. After searching for that perfect app, I found ShineDay which is half in Chinese but it looks really cute and that’s what matters. One of the pre selected habits was ‘take an egg’ and I have no idea what that means but I love it. Eggs are now part of my morning routine.
I am not sure how effective habit tracking will be as I tend to give up on it. I am however, optimistic because the tasks I set don’t stray too far from activities I do during the day.
Timing My Tasks
Instead of writing what I need to do, I am going to spend say an hour on a certain task. That way I don’t feel like I am taking on too much work. I do have quite a lot of tasks I want to complete which makes me feel overwhelmed and then I just procrastinate. So, if you’re like me and easily procrastinate, I recommend doing this. After completing all my tasks, then allow yourself leisure time. The app I use to time my tasks is called Tree and it allows you to plant a virtual tree for every hour you focus, its great.
Thanks for reading everyone! I hope some of you can resonate with my experience of being in a rut. I personally find these methods work for me, hopefully they can work for you too!
University can be a fantastic experience that enables you to meet new friends, explore your character and open you up to a number of opportunities. However, University has downsides as well that you need to experience to allow yourself to grow an develop. Here is a list of the some of the lessons that I’ve learned throughout my years studying, I hope others can draw parallels with their own experiences.
Grades Aren’t Everything
Everyone gets a grade they aren’t satisfied with. An idea that took me a while to realise is that people tend to not fulfil their potential at times because it’s hard to manage study, a job, hobbies and mental health. It’s incredibly difficult to get your desired grades on top of all those responsibilities and obtaining less doesn’t make you a failure. You were able achieve your best at that moment in time, you still worked hard regardless and you should be proud of that.
Even if you fail, or barely pass there are always alternative paths to your career options. Sometimes you just need to take the longer path and that’s okay because if you really want to get somewhere you will.
There’s Opportunities Everywhere
One door closes and another will open. Sometimes you won’t get that internship and that’s okay because another opportunity will come along. It may take time but most of the time, something better will come along.
You’re Not Going to Automatically Find Your Calling
I went into University thinking I’m going to love my course and find my calling. That didn’t happen. The work load at University was intense and then I had practicals as well, I didn’t enjoy studying science (which I love). What really keeps you going though is the end goal. As long as you remember what made you choose that career path you will be motivated to keep going. Although in saying that, do work experience in your field and find out if its truely a career you think you’ll enjoy on a daily basis. Explore other options as well because you never know where you passions entirely lie.
Making Friends May Be Difficult
Sometimes you make a friend in a class, then you don’t see them for a month. University works in strange ways. One of the things I was really excited about before starting University was making really good friends. That didn’t happen until the middle of second year. I’m not saying that you won’t, but it may take time. Add people on facebook, make friends with your project group because you never know where it will lead.
Thanks for reading everyone! I hope these lessons can resonate with others, as well as help new University students.
It can be incredibly easy to desire revenge and even act it out in a fit of anger. It can also be fulfilling to see someone get what they deserve. However, is it worth it in the end?
To understand revenge we need to step back and look at evolution. Evolutionary psychologists theorise that revenge developed through natural selection in order to retaliate against an exploiter when injustice has occurred. In my personal opinion, this makes a lot of sense as humanity often relies on social bonds for survival. Basically, if an individual survives it benefits the species as that individual is able to produce viable offspring. A social behaviour that comes to mind when exploring the idea of revenge and survival is reciprocal altruism. This terms refers to an individual temporarily reduces its fitness (ability to survive in an environment) to increase another organisms, with the expectation that the other organism will do the same. Forming these social groups can aid a persons survival until they can reproduce. So, where does revenge come into this? Revenge paves way for justice in people who go against reciprocal altruism.
As humans we would band together in social groups for survival. Taking advantage of others opposes altruism because it’s for ones own gain and doesn’t benefit the group. Revenge in a sense can be viewed as an example of altruism. It’s taking a person who would rather further their own fitness and reducing them down to someone who can no longer be socially accepted (sometimes). Someone who cannot be part of the group becomes someone whose fitness is reduced in the long run. Now, we have an understanding of why revenge behaviours take place and why it was sometimes necessary in the past, what about the present?
Humans no longer need to survive as a species in a sense, of course there are people who are still trying to drastically survive even today, however; what about a situation where you’ve come up with an idea and it gets stolen? Yes, that would completely suck, though what do you do then? Is it ethical in today’s society? Is beneficial and healthy to do?
Ethics would say no. Desire for revenge is often motivated by spite, anger and ego which can be quite toxic for a person. In the end it can create even more suffering at times. Personally, I want to enact revenge at times but I know I’ll feel worse about it than the situation that caused my desire. I guess it’s really up to where a persons morals stand, if they are at the capacity to then it’s their decision. Sometimes though, the best revenge can be showing how much you grew and were able to achieve your goal regardless. Either way, it’s 2020 and as my sister said ‘we’re over taking people’s shit’.
Thanks for reading everyone! I really wanted to explore a normal human emotion that everyone experiences because it’s really hard to overcome that desire at times.
Hi everyone, this post is a continuation of my previous trip to Japan posts. Here is the links to my previous posts about Osaka, Kyoto and Tokyo.
On 7th day of our 10 day holiday in Japan, we headed to Tokyo Disneyland Resort. We decided to stay at the the Okura Resort Hotel as the resorts made it relatively easy to get to the parks. We arrived at the train station, then rode the resort line to the resort. Once arriving at the station, we were able to catch a shuttle bus to the hotel. Each Disneyland resort has a shuttle bus running between the station and the hotel. Both the resort monorail and the shuttle bus were Disney themed and it was adorable.
Just a quick tip. At the hotel resorts you can purchase two or three day passes for the monorail. I recommend buying these to make travelling between the park and resorts easier. After arriving at the hotel, we chilled for around 2 hours because check in was in the afternoon. The resorts I’ve stayed at usually have a pool, a gym, convenience store, a few restaurants to eat at and a wedding planing/receptions. The restaurants are usually quite expensive and the gym/pools need to be paid for. If you have tattoos, you won’t be able to use these pools at the hotels because they have strict rules. However, if you are able to cover them then you should be able to use it.
Once we were finally in the room, it was amazing. The room was huge with proper beds and a huge bathroom. We had been used to sleeping on futons so we were quite happy to be able to sleep on an actual mattress. The channels are pretty limited in the hotel room. There are only Japanese channels which are as expected, so bring your own entertainment. The rest of the day we just chilled awaiting our adventures in Disneyland tomorrow.
The next day we got up bright and early and headed to Disneyland. We arrived at the gates and they checked our bags. After heading in, we were welcomed by a huge Christmas tree in Main Street. First we headed to the Pirates of the Caribbean ride which was fantastic. It’s a boat ride through a story that is played out by animatronics. These animatronics looked so much like that characters it was unreal. After the ride we headed to Splash Mountain to get fast passes. I recommend getting fast passes as it cuts the wait time in half. The only issue is it gives you a time slot for when you are supposed to return to ride the ride. This could be anywhere from one hour from the time you got the fast pass to more than five. In order to obtain another fast pass while you’re waiting you need to wait for two hours. We got our fast pass for Splash Mountain and it wasn’t until 5pm so we explored Adventureland and Westernland. In Adventureland, I found a hot apple cider from one of the food stands and though it was sickly sweet, it was great to try. The food stall items change seasonally so this was a Christmas drink. Around the park, different areas also have different food items so be sure to try them all.
Adventureland was where the Pirate of the Caribbean ride was located, it also has a Jungle Cruise and the Swiss Family Robinson tree house. We explored the tree house then head to Westernland. Westernland is obviously western themed, as well as being home to the Mark Twain River Boat. The boat is American themed and cruises around an American themed western landscape. It’s quite enjoyable to ride.
Soon the two hours were up and we headed to space mountain to get fast passes for the ride. However, it was closed. I highly suggest you check what’s open on the website so you’re not disappointed like I was because it’s my favourite ride. We were able to ride the Star Wars ride though and that was amazing. Basically, you go into a spaceship and the screen in front of you plays a video and the ship moves with it. I definitely recommend this ride.
Feeling hungry we took a look at the map to find some food. We decided to go with a buffet type restaurant called the Queen of Hearts Dining Hall. We got a dining set which came with a hamburger, mashed potato and soup. We also got dessert in a complementary cup, not going to lie we just wanted it for the cup.
Soon after we went on the It’s a Small World ride and let me just say, the song is as annoying as you think it is. Obviously, it is a kids ride, however, it’s just a ride you need to go on. The puppets are quite cute though, but be warned the song will be stuck in your head for ages. I was walking around the park singing it for the next hour in my head. We also wanted to explore the Cinderella Castle while in Fantasyland, thought this too was closed. It was quite disappointing because this is literally a Disney icon.
We continued to explore the ride a little then headed for Toontown where I saw more cute food. I proceeded to buy the Disney Christmas Bubble Tea drink and a Donald Duck glove steamed bun. I didn’t really enjoy it but it was good fun to try.
After this we pretty much just explored the park. We were in search for a Cinderella popcorn bucket. Disneyland has popcorn stands with these awesome buckets located throughout the park. Each stand also has different flavours and my personal favourite was curry. Our efforts were futile in finding the desired bucket, as they too change seasonally and all we managed to find was a cool light up Tangled Lantern bucket. Some more notable food we found were the alien mochi ice cream and the a Nightmare Before Christmas hamburger type meal. Let me just say, the alien mochi is worth the hype.
Soon after dinner we returned to our hotel and took a rest. We decided to go explore the Official Disney Hotel. It is absolutely beautiful inside and out. Everything was highly overpriced so we only were able to get some cocktails and then we returned to our hotel where we relaxed the rest of the night.
Thanks for reading everyone! I have one more Japan travel post so stay tuned.