Something I’ve struggled with lately is changing my mindset. I find that my view on something changes in relation to my mental health. For example, when I am struggling with my mental health, the bad things in life become painful, as if the universe is trying to make life harder. In this post I want to explore ways to change mindset and to remind myself, as well as others that shit happens.
Challenger Your Thoughts
Changing mindset is a mental battle and simply telling yourself that the universe isn’t out to get you and bad shit just happens can go a long way. Earlier this year when I felt I wasn’t in control of my actions and was stressed about it. I would tell myself ‘I’m in control’ every time feelings of anxiety arose. Eventually it gets in your head that you are in control and no one around you can truely control you.
I believe this is manifestation in a sense. We can manifest our positive mindsets because we are telling ourselves. If we were to wait for things to go right than we’d be waiting a long time, because life is full of obstacles.
Consume Positive Media
I cannot stress this enough. Today I was watching videos on body transformations and while I have a positive body image currently, seeing these peoples transformation was making me feel the need to step on the scale. I tend to be terrified of the scale and it was having a negative impact so I had to switch it off. Obviously we ourselves define what’s negative media for us, but it can have a profound effect on our mood and mindset.
Walking away from something triggering can be difficult, especially with algorithms always throwing it in our face. Try to avoid it though if you feel particularly vulnerable, because a negative mindset can be exhausting.
Looking back, I think these are the biggest factors in changing my mindset but it’s different for everyone. Every once in a while it’s nice to reflect because everyone does forget what helps them to think more positively.
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Recently, an idea that has become popular on tiktok is romanticising your life. While this notion sounds well, romantic, I’ve discovered I don’t entirely know what it means. Any attempt I have made has left me with some sort of anxiety, coming to the realisation that I’m not romanticising anything.
So naturally, to understand it, I googled it and to romanticise your life is to:
Being present and aware is the key to romanticizing your life. Pay attention to what is going on and be determined to be a part of it, even if it isn’t physical.Herculture.org
While this seems simple enough, it’s quite difficult. Through trying to romanticise my life I’ve found I do so many things to avoid living in the present. For example, I like to put on a perfume that reminds me of the place I brought it – Japan, a place I truely feel connected to. So, is living in the present really key to romanticising life?
Initially, I thought it meant doing things you enjoy and manifesting happiness through your actions. Simply putting on that perfume made me happy. The concept inspired me to be spontaneous and try new things. That was my idea of having a romantic life. While the idea of romanticising life is great, I think it’s up to the person to create their own definition of romantic. We are the main character in our own lives, so it’s up to us to act like it.
I think the idea is fantastic, if we create our own definition of romance. If we don’t we can allow anxiety to arise because we aren’t living a life that someone else wants. I felt sad because I’d see everyone else’s romantic life and think, ‘I don’t do that’. Only when I stopped and visualised what the concept meant to me, was when I could truely romanticise it and now the days seem peaceful and enjoyable.
Thanks for reading! I’ve been on a bit of a hiatus because I was sick, but I’m back not to do some writing and can’t wait 😊
It’s hard to express your thoughts, especially when telling someone. Often at times you don’t even need to voice them, just write or draw them. Something that really helps with expression is a safe space. While there are formal definitions, for me it’s a place where I can store my thoughts, feelings and desires. For example, a journal or a blog where you post poems. Expression is a great tool to connect with others but also yourself. Which is why a safe space doesn’t need to be somewhere everyone can necessarily go, it’s for your mind only. Some ideas:
- A corner in your bedroom. Decorate it and make it comfortable. Then go there and write, draw, reflect or anything you desire.
- Create a folder on whatever platform that you can use as a journal or somewhere to keep your thoughts.
- A note book, to draw or write, something you can just carry everywhere with you.
- It could even be a whole room where you do your hobbies and create.
The purpose of these spaces is to take yourself away from the big scary world just for a little bit. In doing so you can process and understand your emotions. Personally, my room is somewhere I can relax away from the world, write poetry and draw. At the end of reflecting I feel better and know that it’s going to be okay when I return to the big scary world.
Thanks for reading! I find it quite hard to take myself away from the world to reflect and focus, so my mind often wonders when I’m trying to work. That’s what inspired this post and I hope it encourages or reminds someone go visit their safe space.
It’s finally the second half of the year, and like most people, I’m counting down the months until it ends. Despite this, I’ve learnt and grown a lot this year, so I want to share these lessons in hope others can reflect.
- Focus on yourself. You can’t please everyone because it’s exhausting, do be kind to others but not at your expense.
- Forming new habits takes time and energy. You need the willpower to do so and it’s bloody hard. I managed to successfully learn one new habit this year out of the many I’ve tried. It takes time and if you want it bad enough you’ll get there!
- Fitness and healthy eating go hand in hand, and it also effects your mood significantly. Healthy eating is hard and so is exercising. This pandemic has made it even harder for some to do both, and I think the greatest effect its all had is in my mood. Which is why I’ve started doing little things to stay active and I’m feeling great.
- I am in control. Everything I want to do is up to me to do it and no one else. Lack of control is scary and we sometimes don’t realise that we are in control. That’s why I remind myself of this every so often.
- I need to play my part in social and environmental issues. It can’t go ignored anymore because racism is still prevalent and that’s not on. In terms of the environment, there are hundreds of small easy things I can incorporate into my life to increase the chances of a better future. So I’ve learned the small things to do my part. I may not have a loud voice yet but I can still do the little things.
- The future is scary but it’s not set in stone.
- Live your life like your the main character. Because you are. No one else is living your life, so go out there and achieve your goals.
These are just a few lessons learned and I’ve found they were greatly influenced by a lot of events that happened this year. While it has been a long and eventful half year, let’s hope the second half is better. And I’d love to hear any lessons you’ve learned this year!
As someone who has suffered anxiety, I have felt with insomnia quite frequently. There’s nothing worse than lying in bed for hours, alone with your thoughts, not able to sleep. Now, these tips may be a little different to lying in bed and counting sheep or telling a story, but they worked for me. Hopefully you can take something away from this post!
- Get up. Yep if you have anxiety induced insomnia, don’t continue to lie down stuck with your thoughts. Your mind will keep cycling all those embarrassing moments.
- Go on your phone, watch a video, browse your favourite social media platform (if this calms you).
- Read a book. If you enjoy reading rather than go on your phone read a book, it might help calm you down.
- Eat something. Yes, eating late at night isn’t the best idea. However sometimes it’s needed, especially if you find comfort in food. I’m not saying binge on a lot but have a small snack to help you feel better.
- CBD oil. While I haven’t tried it myself because it’s illegal in Australia (I think), I’ve heard about it’s therapeutic effect on anxiety. LifesfineWhine made a great post that shared the effects of it. This post actually inspired me to make this post!
- Do whatever you chose until you feel more relaxed or pass out from exhaustion. Really any sleep is better than no sleep, so do what’s necessary.
Thanks for reading everyone! Hope you got something out of this post.
Everyone gets stuck in life. You feel like you aren’t getting anywhere. You feel stuck and unmotivated to do anything. It happens to everybody at some point and the hardest thing to do, is to get out of it.
Browsing through reddit I discovered the r/selfdiscipline subreddit and I read something that makes a lot of sense. Motivation isn’t the key to changing and becoming self-disciplined, willpower is.
What is willpower? The control exerted to do something or restrain an impulse. Motivation to do something can dissolve but the will power to get up and finish that essay you’ve been procrastinating is can be trained. Developing the will power to just give it a go can help overcome the anxiety motivation brings. When you really want to try something, your mind thinks about it, gets excited and then as most humans do, we get let our mind wonder to anxious places. So, next time you have no motivation to do something, ask yourself if you have the will power to do it.
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Here is my take on a healthy friendship. A healthy friendship consists of mutual respect for each others feelings. If they do something that bothers you or vice versa, it needs to be a friendship where one feels comfortable confronting the other. Otherwise the hurt will continue and it can become toxic.
Recently, I have learned if they don’t want to make the changes or make no effort to reassure your issues then they aren’t worth your time. Friends need to be there for each other and not be toxic. Toxicity can lead to unhappiness in any relationship.
Toxicity can result in bad vibes and general sadness. It stops people from seeing the light in situations and causes them to see the negative.
Don’t let people bring you down, if someone is toxic to you then reevaluate that relationship. In the end, is it worth it?
Journaling isn’t for everyone. It can be immensely beneficial for some and for others it may not be. For me I journal through my creativity. I create blog posts to express the emotions I keep hidden within, all while hoping I can bring advice or happiness to someone else’s day. However, writing down these emotions, whether happy or upsetting can help people understand themselves better. I also keep a physical journal, and while I don’t write in it everyday, it’s there when needed. Physical journaling helps us reflect, but it also give us something to do. Write absolutely anything. Talk crap about your favourite show or go into detail and examine every bit of its themes. You see those themes because it’s how your mind interprets it. It’s a creative outlet that allows you to explore your brain.
I wanted to share some prompts to help you journal and reflect on your emotions, as well as enable you to be grateful. Sometimes we don’t appreciate what we have.
- How do you deal with change? Is it welcomed? Give an example.
- What is a time in your life that you put your heart into something and no one appreciated it? How did it feel? And what were your next steps?
- What little things bring you joy and make you calm?
- What can you implement in your daily life to give yourself tiny bits of joy?
- Everyone has a story. A moment in life that changed who they were, for better or for worse. What is that moment for you? And what did you learn from this?
- Did you fulfil your previous goals in life? If not, are you okay with not achieving this goal? If yes, was that goal what you expected?
- What show are you watching right now? What makes it appeal to you? Are there any characters you can resonate with?
- Describe the book you’re reading. What characters can you resonate with? What themes are present?
- What stands out to you when you take a walk on your normal route? Why?
- If you find romance, how do you want your relationship to be? How can your partner show you respect?
- What is your definition of a good friendship? How do you ensure you’re a good friend?
- What’s a moment in your life that your pets have been there for you?
- Love video games? List your favourite and the best character in them.
- If you were to write a book or a screenplay, what would you want it to be about?
Some of these may leave you thinking ‘why would I want to write about that?’. Write about anything you want to. Journaling isn’t always supposed to be about your day. Google prompts or choose some of these, it allows you to reflect on life and also shows you where you were at a certain point in your life. I don’t know about you but I find it incredibly satisfying to look back and see who I was, as well as how far I’ve come.
Thank you all for reading! I hope you enjoyed this post.
Living in the present opens you up to more positivity in your daily life. Often when bad old memories arise, it can bring anxiety and stress, and this goes for the future as well. At times when we think of our future we are afraid because we don’t know what awaits us, giving rise to stress.
Why Is It Important?
If your brain thinks about the past or future too often, it can allow negative or toxic thoughts to enter your headspace. If it continues it can become a state of mind. It will give rise to anxiety and it will reflect on your outlook on life.
Keeping your mind in the present allows you appreciate daily life more and brings about positivity. Of course, you can think where your future is heading, but don’t let the negative thoughts in. You don’t know what will happen and stressing over it won’t help.
How Do We Live In The Moment?
Find an activity that will allow you to take your mind back to the present. Walking with a friend often helps, or cooking with someone. Distract yourself, that’s the best way to appreciate what you currently have.
However if these thoughts are consistent and constantly causing stress and anxiety, by all means seek help to talk out the events bothering you. Talking things out definitely helps you to understand why the situation bothers you and let’s you move on.
Hope this post was thought provoking, thanks for reading! And please be safe in these strange times.
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Over the past few weeks, more people have had to go into self isolation to avoid COVID-19. Australia is starting to take the same precautions and this might be a possibility in the near future. So far, we have closed all non-essential services in an attempt to slow the virus, but even so there a fewer and fewer people on the streets.
With more people starting to work from home, I wanted to share some tips to ensure productivity. I have been working/studying from home for most of my uni life and I understand how difficult it can be to focus.
Tips for Working at Home
- Get ready for the day as you would normally – Get dressed and maybe put some makeup on. Do whatever it takes to get you into that working mindset.
- Start the day off with something you enjoy – Going straight into working can deter you from being productive because you went into a boring activity immediately at the beginning of your day.
- Make rules for phone checking – for example; you have to leave your workspace to check your phone. Creating this rule means you won’t scroll through your phone and distract yourself. You may even be too lazy to get up, so you continue to work.
- Listen to soundtracks or music that won’t distract your brain – I know if I listen to audio with words then my brain will focus on that rather than the work.
- Have lots of natural lighting – natural lighting is good so your eyes don’t strain.
- Make your environment cozy – light a candle, make some tea, get a warm blanket or anything that makes you feel cozy and comfortable.
Those were some tips for working at home. I hope you all got something valuable from them.
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