Inspiring People

Mid 2020 Reflections

It’s finally the second half of the year, and like most people, I’m counting down the months until it ends. Despite this, I’ve learnt and grown a lot this year, so I want to share these lessons in hope others can reflect.

  • Focus on yourself. You can’t please everyone because it’s exhausting, do be kind to others but not at your expense.
  • Forming new habits takes time and energy. You need the willpower to do so and it’s bloody hard. I managed to successfully learn one new habit this year out of the many I’ve tried. It takes time and if you want it bad enough you’ll get there!
  • Fitness and healthy eating go hand in hand, and it also effects your mood significantly. Healthy eating is hard and so is exercising. This pandemic has made it even harder for some to do both, and I think the greatest effect its all had is in my mood. Which is why I’ve started doing little things to stay active and I’m feeling great.
  • I am in control. Everything I want to do is up to me to do it and no one else. Lack of control is scary and we sometimes don’t realise that we are in control. That’s why I remind myself of this every so often.
  • I need to play my part in social and environmental issues. It can’t go ignored anymore because racism is still prevalent and that’s not on. In terms of the environment, there are hundreds of small easy things I can incorporate into my life to increase the chances of a better future. So I’ve learned the small things to do my part. I may not have a loud voice yet but I can still do the little things.
  • The future is scary but it’s not set in stone.
  • Live your life like your the main character. Because you are. No one else is living your life, so go out there and achieve your goals.

These are just a few lessons learned and I’ve found they were greatly influenced by a lot of events that happened this year. While it has been a long and eventful half year, let’s hope the second half is better. And I’d love to hear any lessons you’ve learned this year!

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Book Corner – Lessons Learned from The Order of the Phoenix

This post isn’t going to be on the book as much per sae. I enjoyed this book as much as I enjoyed the rest of the Harry Potter series, however; one character stood out to me, Dumbledore. So, I’m going to discuss why because it almost brought a tear to my eye, and I don’t cry over books.

It wasn’t until the end of the book that we finally got a glimpse into the kind of character Dumbledore is and he is one I really admire.

At the end of the book, after losing his godfather, Harry was distraught, angry and just in a horrible mental state. He was yelling, smashing things and being destructive in Dumbledores office. Yet, Dumbledore showed no objection, he merrily let Harry let it out and listened. I want to discuss a bit about this. Throughout the book Harry was being toxic to his friends because he repressed a lot of his emotions. Finally it came out and by offering Harry a safe place to yell, scream and smash things was the best possible way Dumbledore could’ve reacted to this scenario.

Now, I’m not saying smash things, at least not anything that is valuable. What I am saying is that allowing someone to let it out and free themselves from repressed anger is an amazing thing to do. Not casting blame on them, or offering excuses and listening. I really admired this about Dumbledore, because in no way did he try to repress or down play Harry’s feelings and instead provided an outlet.

Then, when Dumbledore was discussing why the house elf lied to Harry about Sirius (Harry’s godfather), ultimately leading to Sirius’s demise, he explained his motives again never casting blame. Dumbledore is incredibly good at understanding the reason behind why people do the things they do. He understood the mistreatment of the house elf by Sirius and how it could’ve effected their behaviour. But he also understood that Sirius’s mistreatment arose due to a belief that house elves are slaves in Wizarding society. He didn’t show blame on one or the other, he simply stated both sides of the story to allow Harry to make his judgement as to whether he blamed the house elf. For me, presenting the story in two ways allows me to understand to a greater extent. Even more, he didn’t show which side he blamed for Sirius’s death, he did understand that the house elf had been treated poorly by Sirius, but he didn’t show whose side he took. Albeit, in some situations it’s incredibly obvious which side you should take (ones support human rights) and I am referring to the cause of Sirius’s death but he allowed Harry to draw his own conclusions and to decide whether he blamed the house elf or not. Doing this doesn’t guilt trip someone into coming to a certain conclusion. And that is why I admire Dumbledore in this book, he showed how to react when someone reaches out to you and how to see a situation; from both sides of a story.

Thank you so much for reading, I hope this post was somewhat thought provoking. I really enjoy books that have a fantastic story and message so if anyone has an idea as to what book I should read next, let me know!

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Lessons Learned During This Pandemic

We’re in a scary time. There’s lots of panic and fear as tiny virus could potentially make us sick. I want to reflect on some lessons I’ve learned while in quarantine. Some of these will just be general things I’ve learned, others will be mental health related. And let me tell you, isolation can be tough on mental health

  • We weren’t prepared for something as major as this. Humanity is not invincible and this has been a reminder of that. We as a society have been ignoring issues like global warming because it’s always seemed so far in the future. But it’s here now, the effects are already being seen and it’s going to affect everyone.
  • Staying home constantly can drive you stir crazy. Going out for a walk or anything helps counteract this, however you need to see friends and get some sort of social interaction. It helps to talk about anything when you’re stuck at home with the same people.
  • We are overworked for no reason. If this pandemic has shown us anything, it’s that society doesn’t need to always physically go into work. People can work from home and still be productive. Working from home should be optional sometimes, it won’t translate to laziness. A person should be able to work from home for valid reasons. I’d love to see a time where we allocate set days people can stay home.
  • Listen to scientists or medical professionals. I’ve noticed a lot of people have put fear and anxiety ahead of safety. In Australia a big issue is mistrust of the government and while that is understandable, they’re following techniques that have worked in the past to control an outbreak. And at the end of the day, following their guidelines is for your safety and your family. This is purely about the Australia government and their release of an app to track whether you have come into contact with a sick individual. I understand other governments have not been handling the outbreak very well and my country is incredibly lucky to have flattened the curve as well as it did.
  • Panicking will only make things worse. We all experienced the bare supermarkets a few months ago and this was as a result of panic. But also I’ve noticed every time I get hay fever or lately I worry. Even today when my sister had to get tested I had major anxiety, she hadn’t been in contact with anyone yet I still panicked. While panic is normal, I feel like actively telling myself rational things helps and brings me to a more suitable level of panic.

Thanks so much for reading! If there’s any lessons you’ve learned during quarantine I’d love to read them!

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Lessons Learned in 2019

Hey everyone!

2019 is coming to an end, so it’s time to reflect on the lessons I’ve learned during the year. I am incredibly optimistic that 2020 is going to be a fantastic year and the 2020s is going to be a good decade. So, here it goes:

Just because people care, doesn’t mean they always will.

Some people suddenly treat others like shit and there will always be one person who ares about you then treats you poorly. However; it’s time to look at all the people who do care about you and why they all care. People care about you and love you because you’re a good person. Everyone has flaws but learn from them and don’t blame yourself if people leave.

Letting go of the past.

The past shouldn’t always haunt a person. Learn from your mistakes and be a better individual. You did something amazing, you were tested and you overcame – undergoing a significant amount of growth. Don’t let your past haunt you when you have changed, you’re not the same person you were at the start of 2019.

Peoples actions aren’t always because of you.

Some people have gone through a lot. You can either become a better person or go down the path that others inflicted on you. People who treat you poorly do so because they have their own personal issues. The way they treat others is a reflection of their character and their own deep seeded issues. On a side note, it’s not your responsibility to change anyone or help them grow.

Rely on no one.

The only person who can make you feel better is yourself. You don’t need validation or supervision from others. You can accept guidance but the only one who knows what’s best for you is yourself. Listen to the voice inside your head (within reason, of course). I know some people cannot always do that due to mental health, however; a lot of people do know what’s best for them. If someone tells you to see a councillor, by all means follow their guidance, go see for yourself if it helps you cope. Don’t let them make you feel obliged to though, you yourself know if you can cope. Someone told me to see a psychologist so I can get tailored help. I then felt like I had to because I had issues that needed addressing. At that time, I had just seen a councillor and was thanking them for telling me to see one because I wouldn’t have gone if no one had. What I realised when I spoke to my councillor, all I needed was validation that I had been wronged because I kept blaming myself. But it was in my head that I needed help for issues I could handle. I was able to identify the components of a situation I could’ve handled better, I learned from that. At the end of the day, I decided to undergo the healing alone because I know how to cope, I just needed validation from the psychologist or councillor and that won’t always be there. This year, I learned to rely on myself. You’re the only person who knows what you need, you’re the only one who can truely guide you.

Welcoming the New Decade

We are going to start this decade off with a bang. Using the lessons I learned, I will continue to enforce them. I’m going to continue to I find inspiration everywhere I look and try to see life through rose coloured glasses. No more being unhappy, it’s time to change. I’m 21 and I want to live my life to the fullest.